Special Agent Joseph M. Peters, 24, was killed in Afghanistan, just two weeks from returning to the Ozarks.  Peters was part of the Army's Criminal Investigations Division.   He is the first CID Agent to be killed in the war on terror, and on its twelfth anniversary. 

As his loved ones grieve, they're not receiving the usual immediate support offered to families of fallen soldiers.  

Peters graduated from Republic High School in 2007 and enlisted in the Army.   He reached the rank of sergeant and was serving his third deployment when he died Sunday in Afghanistan.   Peters leaves behind his wife, Ashley, and 20-month-old son, Gabriel.

Kara Jarrar grew closer to Ashley, her high school classmate, over the deployment.

"We got together through the cloth diaper obsession that we have, and she comes over a lot and helps me with that and hangs out with me and the kids," said Jarrar.

Now, she's doing what she can to help in the tragic loss. 

"It's just heart-breaking to know your friend lost the love of her life in such a tragic way and not being able to do or say anything for her," said Jarrar.

Jarrar started an online auction to raise money.  It's something that Peters' family could use right now.  Because of the government shutdown, the Department of Defense hasn't sent the usual $100,000 to help with things like the family's travel to meet their loved one's coffin and funeral expenses.

Democratic Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid said Tuesday, "It is shameful and embarrassing.  There are no words to describe this situation that at least I am capable of expressing.  That America could fail the families of our fallen heroes."

"She shouldn't have to worry about money.  She's got to be able to worry about herself and her son," said Timothy Cook, Jarrar's boyfriend.

They hope the sale of little things like cloth diapers and hair bows will show Joseph Peters' loved ones their support. 

"She has people that love her that want to help her and her family.  So this is for her and her family and in memory of her husband, who is a hero," said Jarrar.

The wife of Joseph Peters, Ashley Peters, released this statement to NBC News regarding the military death benefit.  

"My husband died for his country and now his family is left to worry. My husband always said, if something happened to him, we would be taken care of.  I'm a stay-at-home mom, which is what my husband wanted.  He wanted me to take care of our son."

View the online auction that Jarrar set up to help the Peters family:  Operation Support Ashley and Gabriel

Read more about Special Agent Joseph M. Peters' service and the three other soldiers killed on Sunday here.